That’s the problem. It may make sense to the person making the decision, but no one else. So, Solomon warns, “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice.” And, that’s not always easy!
Taking advice from others is a statement, to some, of being inadequate or incomplete. It is a public admission that “You, of all people, could actually keep me from being wrong? You, keep me, from making a mistake? How dare you think I don’t know everything!”
It is sometimes difficult to admit our limitations. No, perhaps most of the time it is difficult to admit we cannot handle things by ourselves and have limited information about choices that confront us. We think and reason, talk and ask questions, but if what we hear does not agree with what we already have in mind, we readily dismiss it, whether it could keep us from disaster.
Closed minded, stubborn, insecure and threatened individuals who refuse advice, or counsel, are usually very defensive. They are quick to argue and anger, usually impatient and insecure, closed and lonely people. They are self-destructive, and in the process usually destroy others because every decision impacts the lives of others.
Looking to others for insight and understanding, for knowledge and information requires humility. And that may be the real problem. To be humble is to admit that “I don’t have all the answers! Only God does.”
If after searching His Word and praying, we do not have His peace, He’ll send the right “advisor” if we ask.
Prayer: Help us, Father, to be strong enough to become weak, wise enough to seek advice, and then trust You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Scripture For Today: The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15
“I may not always be right,” he said as though he believed it, “but I’m never wrong. Never!” Impressive!
We sat there wondering if he knew what he was saying, trying to convince himself of such insanity, or wanting to create fear in our hearts about his power. It really did not matter. All of us, including him, realized the folly of his speech.
However, there are many who believe as he believed: they are incapable of being wrong. They refuse to accept the counsel of anyone and after making a decision become even more resolute and stubborn. Solomon had something to say to people who hold that opinion of themselves: “The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.”
Ultimately and finally, those who have that attitude about themselves are on a path to self-destruction. When looked at from a biblical point of view, they refuse to accept the role of sin in their lives, their need for a Savior, or the reality of God’s judgment that awaits them. Their world view is completely distorted.
The wise, however, “listen to advice.” Even though they may be embarrassed or disappointed when someone who loves them corrects them, or points out a “flaw,” they know that it is for their good. Those who listen to the advice or counsel of someone with spiritual insight and wisdom will be rewarded. Listening to and accepting the advice of our “elders in Christ” is the “wise” thing to do before making any decision.
Prayer: Lord, break the hardness of our hearts when we think we “know it all.” Lead us to those who are spiritually mature, love You deeply, and are biblically wise. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Scripture For Today: The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.” Proverbs 12:15