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Corporal punishment of children is not considered to be an enlightened way of disciplining children. Actually, it is in direct opposition to the majority of the theories of psychology and ways to change behavior. But God does in fact include it as part of His program of parenting skills that can lead a child to maturity. Parents who choose not to use this form of discipline do not demonstrate that they possess a “higher degree” of parenting skills or that they love their children more than other parents. In essence, according to God’s program of child rearing, they do not love their children as much as those who “use a rod.”

The words “hate” and “love” in this verse are not to be seen as comparing love and hate in an emotional sense. In other words, to withhold a spanking is not a sign that “I love my child more than you do yours.” It could be a sign that “I am willing to sacrifice my child’s future well-being because I want him to like me,” or “I would rather have the approval of society than God,” or “I know of other children who were spanked and they did not end up so good.” We must always be cautious about whose approval we are seeking: our child’s, man’s or God’s.

Disciplining children is painful - especially corporal discipline which is clear from this passage of Scripture. But if the discipline is associated with breaking the teachings of God’s laws - lying, stealing, and being disrespectful of others - then it is appropriate. Children must be informed that “If you lie to me, then you will be spanked” is in keeping with God’s laws. Discipline is to bring conformity to God’s ways.

Prayer: Father, help us to discipline our children with love and respect when they disregard Your laws and willingly choose evil. But first, let us be their example. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24

It was obvious to Solomon.
People who want wisdom are willing to pay the price to get it - because they “love” it. There is even a willingness, by some, to be disciplined, if necessary, to obtain wisdom.
People who “hate correction” or discipline, on the other hand, are considered “stupid.”
“Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid,” wrote Solomon. There is a price to be paid for everything: even knowledge. In this verse, the author uses two interesting words to describe the attitude of one who wants “knowledge” or one who is content to be “stupid” - love and hate. Here, however, they are not connected to an emotional state. They focus on the priorities of an individual. If a person wants knowledge, it must be a lifelong priority. If a person wants to be stupid, the only requirement is to refuse to learn or be corrected.
Knowledge and wisdom have very similar meanings in the Bible. In fact, they are almost synonymous, life-giving, life-sustaining, life-enhancing, and require one thing in common: the person who wants them, must at all costs, embrace “discipline.” To “get” one, “wisdom,” we must endure the other, “discipline.” In other words if I want to be wise, I must accept discipline.
Interestingly, the word “stupid” is found five times in the Old Testament. It is used to portray a dense, dumb animal as well as a man who is unkind and runs roughshod over people.
To refuse discipline, then, lowers the status of a person. To accept discipline opens the door to successful living.
Prayer: How blest we are, Father, for the opportunities You give us to achieve great things. Help us to persevere. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Scripture For Today: Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid. Proverbs 12:1

James wrote, “Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord!”
God’s power to heal has an important place in Scripture. In fact, of the 1,257 narrative verses in the four Gospels, 484 are related specifically to healing. We believe in God’s healing power and know He can heal. David also believed in God’s healing power and believed that God could heal him. But where did David begin in his plea for God’s help?
David was hanging on to life by a thread. He felt total rejection by God because of a major sin he had committed. It had become a burden that was too heavy to bear, too big to overlook and too obvious to ignore. In fact he said that God “pierced him and His hand came down hard upon him.” He knew he was being punished by God for sinning against God.
After thoroughly describing his mental, physical and spiritual sicknesses he cried out, “I confess my iniquity; I am troubled by my sin.” In his wisdom and from his former relationship with God, he realized that God would not bring about physical and mental healing unless David first confessed his need for spiritual healing.
There can be little doubt that sin and physical and mental illnesses are intimately connected. Yet, many only want God’s physical and mental healing. With God, all healing begins with confession and repentance – spiritual healing.
Prayer: When we need healing, Lord, may we repent; ask for forgiveness and grace and then healing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Scripture for Today: Psalm 38:1 LORD, do not rebuke me in your anger or discipline me in your wrath.
Haven’t you heard the expression, “I’d give my right arm for that?” A thief did. He broke the window of a store to steal a television. As he reached his arm through the broken glass, a falling section of glass severed it above the elbow.
If we had the chance to ask that thief if he would chose to give up his arm for a television, there is little doubt that he would not agree to do so. Yet, each day we trade what is eternally valuable for temporary treasures and pleasures.
We work hard and invest ourselves – our time, talents and treasures – for “things” that are temporal and soon become worthless. “Things” that once had significance and meaning become worthless and outdated. We make sacrifices for what we deem important at that moment. Ask yourself this question: What sacrifices am I making for Christ? He has called us to take up our cross and follow Him. What are you willing to give up in order to be a follower of Christ? He wants us to give up everything for Him.
Prayer: Lord, help me to see my life the way that You see it. I am sure that there are some things I need to be doing that I am not doing and some things that I need to stop doing. Give me insight and courage to make the necessary corrections for Your sake. In Your Name. Amen.
Scripture: Luke 9:23 Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.”
General Robert E. Lee is remembered for his greatness as a military leader. His heroic life is well documented and his accomplishments are still studied by military leaders today.
Toward the end of his life he was asked to attend the christening of a child. The mother, pleased at his presence, wanted it to be remembered by all that were there. “General Lee,” she began, “you have achieved a great place in history. Give us a word that will guide our son through life.”
After thinking for a moment, General Lee cleared his throat and said to those gathered around him, “I have had one creed all of my life that has guided me through many struggles and much suffering. Teach him,” he advised the parents, “to deny himself.” Nothing new here.
Years ago Jesus said, “If any of you want to be my followers, you must put aside your selfish ambitions, shoulder your cross, and follow me. If you keep your life for yourself, you will lose it.”
His followers understood that, too. Following Him meant making a commitment that could lead to death on a cross – but ultimately, life everlasting.
Prayer: Father, we all want lives of comfort and convenience and not the cross. Empower us to deny ourselves and serve You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Scripture for Today: Matthew 16:24-28 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.
Years ago at a missionary conference in London, a gracious man with an inviting smile noticed a young boy standing alone looking puzzled. Softly he asked, “Would you like to be a missionary?”
“Oh yes,” he answered, “yes, I would!”
And he did. He became one of the world’s most famous missionaries as well as an explorer in Africa. Years later, David Livingstone said, “It was that smile, gentle question and expression of kindness that led me to become a missionary.”
It is easy to overlook those who appear to be unimportant or seem to have no significance. We often consider them the “least in the Kingdom of God” – assuming that they have little worth in serving the Lord.
Jesus picked men to be His disciples who were considered “ordinary men.” But those “ordinary men” preached sermons, wrote books, established the Church, grew the Kingdom and reached the world because some One said, “Follow me!”
Prayer: Father, open our eyes to those around us who we may invite to work with us to reach the lost. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Scripture for Today: Matthew 28:19 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,

Solomon was widely recognized for his insightful proverbs. There were many who did not worship his God but respected and followed the advice that was embedded in his wisdom. Many of his proverbs were written for his sons. But they were not intended to be limited to “sons.” They were written to provide guidance for all fathers and mothers of all times and in all cultures.

A recurring theme throughout Proverbs is the importance of discipline. Sometimes we are reminded that self-discipline is a life-long, never-ending necessity. But on one occasion he reminds fathers, which is also intended to include mothers, that there are some children who require life-long discipline which hopefully and eventually may accomplish its purpose. But parents are to persevere!

“Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death,” is a rather stark warning. There may be times when parents think that education or guidance or advice or opportunity or wealth may bring hope for their children’s future. But what value are all those things without discipline? The underlying rule to what he is saying is this: “The undisciplined life is not worth living because it will certainly end in death!”

What a vivid warning: If we who are parents do not make discipline the most important priority in the life of our children, we willingly - and now knowingly - contribute to their death! This is breathtaking and frightening. And notice that there is no age limit to discipling a child. Whenever a child needs discipline, parents are to step in and intervene! A child is never beyond the need for discipline if it is necessary or required and will honor God.

Discipline may not be accepted and parents must never give up hope. And there is one simple, Biblical rule we are to apply: the “if/then” rule - If you want our help, then you must honor Him.

Prayer:  It’s not easy, Father, to be a parent. But You are our example. If we want You to bless us, we must apply Your rules. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture for Today: Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.

We often apply words without understanding the importance of their exact meaning. The word “ignorant” is a good example. To be sure, I am “ignorant” about many things. I know nothing about “quantum physics” but that does not mean I am “dumb.” I cannot fly an airplane, but that does not mean I am “stupid.” Rather, I am “ignorant” about quantum physics and how to fly an airplane.

Being ignorant differs from “ignoring” something. It means that I lack knowledge or information about a particular subject. It may or may not impact on my life in a harmful way. But if I “ignore” something important or significant that can affect my well-being that is different.

Discipline is something not to be ignored because it has serious consequences. “He who ignores discipline despises himself; but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.” It is a conscious rejection or refusal to accept discipline or even the willingness to consider it as an important aspect in life. Solomon says that a person who ignores discipline “despises himself” or is “unwilling to be corrected.” This often refers to “personal pride” or an unwillingness to see myself as I am. It is though I say to myself, “It does not matter what the truth is about me, I refuse to admit it.”

If we look at this from another perspective, it is the same as a sinner saying to God, “I don't need You. I can make it by myself. I need nothing - including You.”

However, if we accept “God’s correction” we not only gain understanding, we receive all He has to offer us.

Prayer:  Thank You, Father, for all we have because of Your love. May we gladly accept Your correction and life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture for Today: Proverbs 15:32 Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.

Corporal punishment of children is not considered to be an enlightened way of disciplining children. Actually, it is in direct opposition to the majority of the theories of psychology and changing behavior. But God does in fact include it as part of His program of parenting skills that can lead a child to maturity. Parents who choose not to use this form of discipline do not demonstrate that they possess a “higher degree” of parenting skills or that they love their children more than other parents. In essence, according to God’s program of child rearing they do not love their children as much as those who “use a rod.”

The words “hate” and “love” in this verse are not to be seen as comparing love and hate in an emotional sense. In other words, to withhold a spanking is not a sign that “I love my child more than you do yours,” it could be a sign that “I am willing to sacrifice my child’s future well-being because I want him to like me,” or “I would rather have the approval of society than God,” or “I know of other children who were spanked and they did not end up so good.” We must always be cautious about whose approval we are seeking: our child’s, man’s or God’s.

Disciplining children is painful - especially corporal discipline which is clear from this passage of Scripture. But if the discipline is associated with breaking the teachings of God’s laws - lying, stealing, being disrespectful of others - then it is appropriate. Children must be informed that “If you lie to me, then you will be spanked” is in keeping with God’s laws. Discipline is to bring conformity to God’s ways.

Prayer:  Father, help us to discipline our children when they disregard Your laws and willingly choose evil. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture for Today: Proverbs 13:24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

What? A goal for 2016 before completing the first day of 2015?

Why not?

Most of our “Resolutions for 2015” are, in fact, goals of one sort or another. Some resolutions will challenge us to “aim high” while others are “recycled” because they were “trashed” due to “lack of interest or difficulty.” Some will bring laughter because they are so ridiculous while others will encourage us to stretch and grow and develop the gifts, skills and talents that God has given us.

Perhaps the best part of a resolution is the fact that it forces us to focus on the future - whether we want to or not. Tomorrow will soon become today and 2015 will be 2016 leaving us with some memories that we did not plan, want or feel we deserved. We have no power over time or some events - nor the ability to stop, start or delay them.

But we all have “attitudes” about things that we can alter or even change completely. If we willingly seek God’s knowledge, we can change any attitude that could keep us from accomplishing the plan He has for our lives.

“Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge - but - he who hates correction is stupid.” Being willing to allow God to discipline or correct us proves to Him that we love Him and want Him to guide us even though it may be painful or uncomfortable. He knows what we need!

Otherwise, Solomon would classify us as “stupid” or not having “rational thoughts.” When God disciplines us it is for our good and His glory because He loves us!

Prayer:  We are blest, Father, to know that You want Your very best for each of us. Guide and guard us always! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture for Today: Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but those who hate to be rebuked are stupid.

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